Embrace the “real”

 

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“2017”, the year I hit 25, the year I quit the so-called most preferred “bank job” which I had superficially believed to be my dream career and directed all my efforts towards the same without a plan B, the year I earned money and also lost all of it in a jiffy , the year my health solidly bottomed out like never before, the year, my mind that was unconscious until then, suddenly gained consciousness as it was undressed to the originalities of life and then it was also the year I lost a piece of my heart, the secret behind my resilience, the major contributor to my doctrine of life, the person who celebrated my existence the most, my CAPTAIN, as I wish to address him.

Just a couple of months before captain’s departure to the eternal world, with all the perplexities in mind that was caused due to the sudden turbulence in life and with a fear of bleak future, I went to receive some comfort and assurance from him like always. He was lying in bed, the minute he saw me entering his room, he threw a warm smile at me and gestured me to sit next to him. With numbed faith and blurred inner sight I instantly told him,’ “I’ve derailed from the normal path and I don’t think I can be back on track ever again, it’s too late for anything to change now”. Hearing me talk in a concluding tone of having reached the finish line in life, cracked him up. He asked me to hold my nerve, forget whatever had happened and listen to an interesting story of his neighbor, Raj Mohan.

Raj Mohan, had lost his mother at a very young age and lived with his father, Ramcharan who owned an agarbatti (incense) factory. After his wife’s expiry, Ramcharan was immensely involved in the factory operations ignoring the responsibilities of his parenthood. Mohan’s innocence and lack of guidance, lured him to believe the blind practices and principles of the society to be the actual way of life. His superficial understanding of the community systems and customs sculpted him into a man who always looked for attention, enjoyed flattery, and longed for validation for all his actions from the elite crowd of the society as he was of the opinion that earning external authentication was real “victory” and a sign of correctness. He simply aspired to be the “Mr. Perfect” and wished to fit into the creamy layer of the society, hence targeted all his efforts towards meeting the “standard societal norms”, as he believed, this would bring his wish to fruition. He was of the opinion that outsmarting the “benchmarks” set by the society was the “Universal process for progressive living”. His dogma of flawless existence revolved around the metrics set by the society for “flawlessness”.

Unconsciously abiding to the whimsical notions of the community, Mohan strived to obtain one of the most respected degrees, graduation in mechanical engineering and triumphed in grabbing a fancy position at the esteemed “Public works department” back then during 1940’s. His purpose got served when the community crowned him as the “youngest man with the most prestigious position”. His obsession to portray himself as the perfectionist forbade him to enjoy this feat as he was continuously fidgeting for his next step that would once again highlight him among the community. And this time he was in a hurry to enter the marital phase not because he was in need of a companion, only because he would soon cross the right age set by the society. He urged his father to hunt for the prettiest women in their circle which was undoubtedly a collar up aspect back then. He was successful in marrying a women with unreal beauty at the ideal time laid down by the society and this made the people around be in awe with his yet another so called achievement. Again his cycle of fidgeting began to level up his perfect life, which was fathering a male child as it was considered to be the highest accomplishment for a man back then. This time the almighty was not in his favour as his wife gave birth to twin female infants. He transparently showcased his dissatisfaction by never giving any sort of fatherly affection to his daughters. A couple of years later his wife conceived again delivering a girl child yet another time. Mohan fumed with frustration as he was once again unsuccessful in achieving the alleged reputable norm of the society. For few months he had nothing to boost about that could catch the eyeballs of the people around him and his perfectionist attitude did not accept this. A year and a half passed by, his wife became pregnant once again and this time she delivered a male child but both the mother and the infant died immediately after the delivery due to complications in the pregnancy.

Mohan’s weakness to be crowned as the “epitome of successful living” cajoled him to develop the feeling of inferiority after this tragic incident which lured him to depressive thinking. Seeing his disinterest towards his daughters, one of his far relatives adopted them and took care of them with utmost solicitude and affection which they were immensely deprived off. Due to his depression, Mohan was unable to fulfil his professional responsibilities which made him lose the job. Now, all those people who were fanning his artificial belief of being a perfectionist in the society, began neglecting his existence as he had lost all the so called prestigious possessions of life; powerful career, beautiful wife and children which deconstructed his perfect life. Half year later, Mohan lost his father due to sudden ill-health. Mohan was comfortable being unemployed but was not ready to take over the operations of his father’s tiny incense factory as he considered it to be non-prestigious, once again, according with the society’s whims and fancies. Pandering to his greed, he urged for second marriage, so that he could stand with his head high among the people again, but found no companion as he was in the dilapidated square of life in the eyes of the society.

Mohan, being a personality who measured the reality of his existence only when the society recognized him and the progress of his life based on the unfounded metrics set by the same society, now declared himself to be deeply defeated but wasn’t aware that it was because of his own feeble understanding about the authenticity of evolution. This was a harsh blow which broke his glass like fragile character and forced him to ring fence himself from the society for the rest of his life due to severe identity crisis.

When captain had finished narrating the story, he jumped back to what I had told him in the beginning, about being derailed from the “normal path”. Keeping Raj Mohan’s life in mind, he advised me to introspect about these questions if I wished to be back on track;” Does “normal path” exist in reality? Who defined this normal path? Who created it firstly? What is my relationship with the person who created it? How am I obligated to abide by the same? If “normal path” is a delusion then what is real?”

My strong will to be back on rail and experience the “sometimes magically logical and some other times logically magical” phenomenon called “LIFE” persuaded me to sink deeper into the above questions to seek the right understanding about my current situation. This exercise hit me with a sudden flash of wisdom about the ecosystem we have chosen to live in, which means there exists a difference between the ecosystem we are believing in and the ecosystem we are actually supposed to live in. Hold on! Then there is an innate ecosystem and lets call that as “Organic ecosystem” and there is also an illusionary “artificial ecosystem” created by “someone” which has blinded most of us towards recognizing the natural one.

Throwing the focus light on certain principles of the “artificial ecosystem” which were framed by an ignorant “someone”, short-changing others to obey the same, with the only purpose of fanning his/her psychological convenience will aid us unfasten the blindfold and acquaint with the original. So what are they?

•  An ignorant “someone” who wanted to satiate his beast appetite for “power” and pander to his sadistic psychology of making people around him feel weaker, created the concept of “money” as his weapon to project his false “might” and the rest of the untaught gracefully braced this rule as a metric for “richness”- how better the world would be if this concept didn’t exist? Wasn’t fixing artificial value to everything superfluous as every fragment of the creation is already been bestowed upon with its own unique value?
• An ignorant “someone”, engulfed in the lunacy of “controlling” the happenings in life, may be because of grasping incorrect learnings about life not being favorable most of the time, formulated a “time table” for all possible events and coaxed most of us into chasing, more than living - how better would our lives be if we only knew that time is a mere illusion and so is the “time table, thus just unprejudiced travelling through the space between the first moment until the last moment is our sole duty?
• An ignorant “someone” who possessed dream occupation, money, house and nothing else along with a lack of mindfulness about this macro marvel called life satisfied his ego by fixing his situation as the “ultimate benchmark” for success and the rest of the beings mindfully abided by this false rule- How better the evolution would be, if we knew success or failure is a mere phantom as life is an absolute journey of experiences?
• An ignorant “someone” who at some point in time felt supreme comfort just with food, clothing and shelter, termed the basic needs of a human to be the same and the rest of the unconscious chased the above three secondary elements, forgetting the most primary among the rudiments that are “humanity, love and reverence” – how better the journey of life would be if we practiced earning the primary rudiments before the secondary?
•    An ignorant “someone” who was self-obsessed with his own intelligence strived to set the limit of his brain as the “standard metric” for brilliance and the rest of the shallow-wits structured the entire education/knowledge system based on this false limit- How better the world would be if we knew the fact that every brain is granted with unique depth of understanding and that needs to be mutually honored instead of being measured?
•  An ignorant “someone” with lavish superiority complex for his occupation wanted to feel the pride forever, hence fixed the “degree of dignity” to all types of work and the rest of them who wished to feel the same pride strived to grab the occupation of highest dignity – how better the occupational system would be if we knew each one possessed its own nobility with equal consequence and breakdown of one would create turbulence among the rest?
• An ignorant “someone” who was sighted yet blinded by his arrogance compared the strengths of male and female based on “incomparable factors” and declared male gender a “boon” and the rest of the unaware made this their principle forgetting that the creation demanded this distinction- how better the world would be if we knew, the creator created different genders not to compare but to complement each other for a harmonious journey by bestowing both with special features?

         If these are based on “someone’s” ignorance, then what are the rules of the “organic ecosystem”?

 The specialty of the “organic ecosystem” is that, it doesn’t possess common or standard rules and thus existence of a “normal or universal path” has no space at all here. Because this organic space of life is conceived on the fact that except for “birth, breath & death”, there can be nothing that is “universal”. This natural ecosystem purely operates on “response to stimuli” concept. It involves no conditions, restrictions or boundaries which influences our beliefs. It has a tendency to perpetually generate infinite stimuli during our journey on earth and our individual beliefs impact our response to each stimulus. Every “stimulus” depicts an event in life to which we need to respond with utmost sincerity. This is the original space in which the whole creation is bound to live to experience the “entirety of evolution” and not by adjusting our beliefs to the manmade ecosystem that falsely exist.

 

So, in this already contaminated space with artificial beliefs, how can we recognize and start living in the “organic ecosystem”?

There is nothing much to do to achieve the sight of the “Organic ecosystem”, just stay “calm and patient” and you can sight it. I was told by one of my secret travel guides that calmness aids in acquiring “precision” and “precision” is what helps you spot the organic ecosystem. So, being serenely stoical enables us to hone our inner sight and grasp the literal “ethos of the creation” and once you start sensing the stimulus, there begins your “real expedition”.

 

Simple thoughts to live well

You might now ask me………….

What should we do to stay calm? Simple, don’t be anxious.

How not to be anxious? Easy, don’t expect anything.

Then, what to do? Nothing, just respond.